The holidays come wrapped in glitter, excitement, and just a pinch of chaos.
For many families, it’s the most magical time of the year.
For others—especially families with sensitive, anxious, or neurodiverse kids—it can feel like one long, overstimulating avalanche of sound, lights, changes, and pressure.
So let’s rewrite the story.
Because holiday magic doesn’t have to be big or loud or perfect.
It can be quiet, intentional, and small enough to hold in a child’s hands.
Today, I want to share the power of small traditions—predictable, calming rituals that help anxious kids feel safe, connected, and seen during the most wonderful (and sometimes overwhelming) time of the year.
🎄 Why Holidays Are Hard for Anxious Kids
Even when things are fun, they’re not always easy.
The holiday season can bring:
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Disrupted routines
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Unfamiliar places and people
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Loud sounds and bright lights
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Sugar crashes and sleep changes
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Social expectations and sensory overload
What looks like misbehavior may actually be:
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Anxiety
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Sensory sensitivity
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Fatigue
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Need for structure and familiarity
Small traditions help create an anchor in all that swirling excitement.
✨ What Are “Small Traditions”?
Small traditions are simple, repeatable rituals that:
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Signal safety and structure
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Give kids a sense of control
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Soothe the senses
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Strengthen family bonds
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Offer joy without overwhelm
These aren’t about crafting perfection or over-planning. They’re about presence.
🛠️ Melissa’s Favorite Small Traditions for Anxious Kids
🧁 1. The “Same Snack” Tradition
Every year on a certain day, you make or buy the same exact thing. It could be:
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Toast with cinnamon sugar
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Hot cocoa with one big marshmallow
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Popcorn with sprinkles
Why it works: The sensory predictability is soothing, and the emotional connection grows year after year.
📖 2. The Cozy Countdown
Instead of an activity-filled advent, try one bedtime story or quiet moment each night. Use:
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A favorite holiday book rotation
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A gratitude jar
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A family “high/low” sharing circle
Why it works: Consistency + calm = safe bedtime transitions during a high-energy season.
🕯️ 3. The Sensory-Safe Sparkle Night
Pick one evening to dim the lights, light a candle or nightlight, turn on calming music, and enjoy:
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A soft blanket fort
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A warm drink
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Drawing, puzzles, or just snuggling
Why it works: Kids with sensory sensitivity need a break from the noise—and this tradition becomes their safe holiday space.
🧸 4. The “Just-Us” Ritual
Choose one ritual that’s just between you and your child—like:
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Decorating one special ornament
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A “secret handshake” when things feel stressful
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Making cards for people they care about
Why it works: Personal traditions increase emotional safety and help kids feel special and centered.
🧠 Supporting Predictability & Emotional Safety
You can also:
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Create a visual holiday schedule (especially helpful for neurodiverse kids)
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Use “feelings check-ins” during events
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Offer opt-outs for overstimulating activities (“It’s okay if you want to skip the loud parade.”)
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Pack a holiday calm kit (fidget toy, headphones, familiar scent, comfort item)
The more your child knows what to expect—and how to get support when it’s too much—the calmer their body and brain will be.
💬 A Note from Melissa
Small traditions might not seem like much at first.
But year after year, they add up to something beautiful:
Safety. Memory. Connection.
You’re not just decorating a tree or sipping cocoa.
You’re building a childhood that feels secure and joyful—even when the world is busy.
So this year, if things feel too big, too loud, too unpredictable... bring it back to the small.
One story. One song. One snack. One hug.
That’s the magic.
📌 Try This Today:
Create a “My Holiday Helper Plan” with your child. Ask:
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What’s one tradition you want to do again this year?
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What helps you when you feel overwhelmed?
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What do you want to say “no thank you” to?
Post it on the fridge—and let your child know their voice matters, even in a season of sparkle.
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